The following suggestions are offered in terms of their relative usefulness in discussing trauma and learning

to avoid  more helpful things to do
don't address violence without reliable resources / referrals

[need for research]

 find reliable counseling referrals prior to addressing  violence

 [investigate possibilities, invite speakers]

 build connections/relationships with community providers

avoid 'knowing it all,'

don't assume someone else can or should do what you might do

 listen well
avoid 'doing for'  work with learners to develop advocacy skills
don't require people to share  work with people to create safe spaces / ground rules for  those who wish to share
teachers are not counselors; don't take on a counseling role  provide good referral information as appropriate
avoid judgements; don't blame the victim  respect others' rights to make their own decisions, while  providing information/increasing awareness about options
avoid simplistic answers  be realistic about difficulties and possibilities (hopeful  survival stories)
don't store journals where others might read them  respect privacy;

messages that blame or discourage victims

 important messages to receive
Did you try to stop the abuse?

What did you do to provoke it?

 I believe you

 It's not your fault

Why don't you just leave?  I'm interested in hearing more.
That happened a while ago, why are you still talking about it?  How can we make our classroom feel safe?
Can't you just forget about it? You need to get on with your life.  I'm interested in helping you understand how your  experiences affect your learning

back to on the screen

[31 march/2006]